Sunday, August 21, 2011

All That You Dream by Dean Solon

what is residing and abiding in the depth and breadth and breath of you is not a heart of darkness.

residing and abiding in the depth and breadth and breath of you is a heart of compassion, a heart of wisdom.

what is residing and abiding and abounding in the depth and breadth and breath of you is not restlessness and noise.

residing and abiding in the depth and breadth and breath of you is a quiet,
is a silence,
that includes all sounds and all sights
and all that is past and is future
and all that is full and is empty
and all that you know and do not know     
and all that you dream

Thich Nhat Hanh:  "If we live mindfully, we encounter the Buddha and Jesus Christ all the time."

Wednesday, August 10, 2011

A Song For The New Day by Dean Solon

you are here to change the tune.

you are here to sing a different song, to chant a different mantra.  you are here to bear witness, to go forth with love, to resolve and to redeem, to make waves and to make whole.

you are here to be blessed, and to be bliss.  you are here to sit before the altar, to be altered, and to be one who alters in space and time.  you are here to be awakened, and to be an awakener.

you are here to be the loving cup.  you are here to be a bolt of lightning.  you are here to be a single finger, pointing skyward.

you are here to be what you are.  you are here to be more than who you are.

you are a stranger in a strange land.  you are a perfect fit in this world.

you are a mending of the fabric that is torn.  you are a healing of the wound that has been inflicted.

you are a leaping forward to the remembering of an ancient tale.  you are a falling backward into a seat that has been waiting for you.

you are the reaching for something new.

you are the retrieving of something misplaced.

you are here for completion.  you are here for the co-creating of a new beginning.

you are here to be what you are.  you are here to be more than who you are.


Wednesday, August 3, 2011

Get off the Merry-Go-Round of Life to Rediscover Your Children - by Jeff Katowitz

          The life of a parent can sometimes be described as like being on a merry-go-round that just never stops. Racing around in the mornings, afternoons and evenings. Where are we supposed to be and what is demanded of us? Who needs me and how and what do I need to prioritize? With the mundane tasks, responsibilities that seem to never end we tend to get caught or trapped on the merry-go-round of life and miss out on making sure that we reconnect and nurture important relationships.

      It is important for all of us who have children to consider taking a journey back to them. What this essentially means is that many of us are gradually distancing ourselves from what we covet the most, we’re just not aware that it is happening. This process occurs as we rarely get a chance to evaluate and remind ourselves of what is most meaningful. It’s time for us to pay closer attention and to work towards understanding and appreciating where our children are in their development. Begin to look more closely at how our involvement in their lives on a consistent basis can impact their mood, grades, relationships, physical health, motivation and overall behavior.

     Consider conducting a self-evaluation of how much we really know what is going on our children’s lives. Do we know who their friends are? Did we know that they got an “A” on their last spelling test? When was the last time we read to them, threw a ball, colored, went to the movies? Oh, here’s a good one – how about asking ourselves when was the last time we had a meaningful conversation with our child?

     If you answered “I don’t know” or “no” to some of these questions you may want to take notice and evaluate more closely your relationships with your children. Ask yourself the question “what role am I playing in the life of my children?” Perhaps circumstances make it difficult for you to connect with your children due to a myriad of reasons, but begin to examine if changes need to be made in order to be more accessible to them and identify their needs.

      Here are a few simple suggestions of how to increase your involvement and connection with your children. Start a process of consistent communication with each of them. It can be a simple comment or initiating a dialogue with them that shows that you care and notice them. “You look really cool in that jacket.” “I heard you did well on your quiz yesterday,” “How was your day?” You can also try to tell them how much they mean to you. “You know, you are really important to me and I hope we can begin spending more time together – what do you think?” Remember, it doesn’t require a great deal of effort to embark on that journey back into their lives. You just have to be willing to step off of the merry-go-round for a while and take notice.

Jeff Katowitz, LMFT is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist providing individual, couples, and family counseling. Specialities include adolescent development, separation, divorce, adoption, blended families, grief and loss, and families in transition.